Wednesday, March 07, 2007

Let me just say that what I know of you all, from what I have read on your blogs, (and I realize that "tip of the iceberg" is a gross understatement here) you all seem like some of the most sensitive women around. Only people who are in touch with their own feelings can share so easliy the intimate details of their lives. I realize that this medium is anonymous and that may make it easier to open up, still it's hard to admit that we've behaved in a less than stellar way when it comes to our parenting skills - even to complete strangers.
Skills!
Now there's a thought. Why don't we ever list "Parenting" on a resume when it says to "list skills..."
Or maybe you do. If so, I'm totally impressed. (And a little jealous because it wouldn't occur to me to do so.)
Please don't take the quotes in my previous post as a suggestion that any of us behave in ways that are harmful to our children. You can't see into my house, and witness the things I do and say on a daily basis. Even if you could, you'd probably tell me (like those who can and do see into my home) that I'm doing a really good job raising my son. And I'd probably tell you the same if I had my blog-scope linked up to your homes.
It's just my own insecurity, and seeing a written reminder to pay attention to myself, my own actions that prompted that post. Whether you found it helpful, meaningful, or a load of crap, I thank you for your comments. They are always ALL helpful, and appreciated, and eagerly looked forward to.


totally a banana, right?

15 comments:

NotSoSage said...

Totally. Times two.

Swistle said...

That's DEFINITELY a banana.

theflyingmum said...

A moon?! WHAT was I thinking?

nowheymama said...

That's a really cute banana.

Sober Briquette said...

Moon is a perfectly legitimate answer, even though once identified as a banana, it's indisputable. I admit my first thought was moon, but that's because the moon features big around our house - in every room my daughter taped up a piece of paper crayoned black with a yellow star and crescent moon taped on it. A couple weeks ago we had days without end of cloudy nights, so she did that for her little brother who likes to look at the stars and moon every night before bed.

This post and the one previous are definitely "meaningful" and timely for me. I've been so unfulfilled recently as a SAHM, yet I know part of the problem is that I'm not trying as hard. I'm in a quandary. I just had to let you know how much I appreciate your posts. Thank you.

theflyingmum said...

De, thank YOU! I so, so love being in touch with other mom's who can tell me unequivocally "me too!"
And your daughter drawing the moon and stars for her little brother? Melts my heart.

Mad Hatter said...

Now, my daughter would think it was a moon and my husband would think it was a banana. That's the sign of great art, isn't it? It's open to interpretation.

theflyingmum said...

I'm trying not to get too excited about the "banana" - as I said, Ben doesn't draw much. I've even put paper over the entire coffee table to try to entice him. But when he does draw, it usually knocks me out. A little over a year ago he drew his first recognizable thing, a wobbly sun with rays extending out, on the glass door (with window markers). I took pictures of it. Am I a complete dork?

Beck said...

That is a perfectly lovely banana moon.

Sara said...

I actually saw on a resume once a big paragraph about how this woman "got her GED while raising her 2 small children as a stay at home mom." I found it weird--this was before I had kids. Now I can see that this was probably the most important job she ever had.

And TOTALLY a banana.

Kyla said...

Totally a banana. What talent! :) When KayTar wakes up from nap, I will let her judge it. She has a fascination with bananas right now. They completely freak her out (if she touches/smells them she goes all gaggy) but she so WANTS to like them that she signs about them all the time. So, what I'm saying is, I'll call in the resident banana expert in our home to give it a look. *lol*

theflyingmum said...

Sara, I got your other comment (about Eddie and his stuffed animals...), but don't know where it went! Anyway, thanks.
Kayla, I would love KayTar's opinion. Ben has a thing for them right now too, though he can eat them without gagging...
I have a nephew who demanded a banana every morning for breakfast - he's 23 now and can hardly say "banana" without gagging. Maybe things will change for Kaytar too.
Beck, a banana moon - yeah!

Mary G said...

there probably isn't a parent anywhere who has not, on occasion, behaved in a way that was harmful to the kid. And who has also behaved as a marvellous parent a lot more. In my experience, the second behaviour cancels out the first, although when they grow up it's awful stuff they remind you about. (Just a while ago I got 'Remember when you threw the coffee cup at me?' from my daughter. Grrr. There was a concept around a while ago called 'The good enough parent', which averred that a little neglect of the child's demands for attention was healthy, and that letting the child find an activity on her own was positively beneficial. I clutch this concept to my bosom.
And I did throw a coffee cup -- across the room away from her -- I had a dint in my refrigerator for years to remind me of that moment. She was thirteen.
Oh, well.

theflyingmum said...

Mary G, Oh- definitely! I played by myself quite happily when I was a kid, and Ben needs to know that Mom and Dad can't be constant playmates. Truth be told, I'm just not too keen on "playing" with him. I'd love to find some mutual activity, though, that we both enjoy. I'm home all day with him most of the time, and there are no neighbor kids (his age) nearby for him to play with. I don't want to just set him in front of the tv, and I guess he just gets bored and wants someone to play with every now and then. Sorry about the tea cup. And the fridge (I am scared to death of teenagers, and already am steeling myself for puberty...) If you've got to get angry at your kids, I sort of believe in letting them see you have your feelings. And letting them know that it's ok, and safe to have their feelings too.
PS I'm sure your daughter is a very lovely person now ;-)

theflyingmum said...

Oops, sorry, I meant Kyla, of course.